While I’ve often found these things to exacerbate the problem, some find distractions like fasting, exercise and throwing yourself into other activities to be helpful.
If contracting a marriage is really not something that interests you at the moment, then maybe you need to consider another type of contract.
I think my physical craving keeps me from focusing on my job or enjoying the good the things I have in life.
Masturbation can be a safe way to both satisfy your desires and learn your own body well enough to direct a lover when the time comes. The desire for the warmth of another’s flesh against your own and the hormone-high inducing magic of sex can powerful.
When it starts to feel overpowering, though, it’s time to reconsider your options.
You could simply keep doing what you’re doing, perhaps include new toys in your solo sex life.
It’s generally only accepted as permissible by Shi’a, but the argument for its permissibility is solidly based in Qur’an and hadith.
If what’s holding you back from enjoying sex is observation of prohibitions against sex outside of a contracted relationship, then this is an option you should seriously consider.Shy Desi Boy responds: Thank you for your refreshingly honest letter and for admitting your pre-occupation with sex.I am a single virgin woman in my late twenties who has always had a high sex drive. I am generally happy and confident with myself and have developed an understanding of my sexual preferences.But unless I’m busy and content with life (which is not often! I masturbate regularly and have learned to respect and love my sexuality, but I feel very unfulfilled.I am not open to having sex before marriage, and I don’t think I’m getting married anytime soon.So for the time being, I feel like I am sexually stunted.