Since my experience was limited to just my husband, I got some additional input from two American bloggers living in China: Jocelyn Eikenburg writes Speaking Of China and Jo Kelly-Bai writes Life Behind The Wall.Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.
A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two...maybe even three, before returning to the US to start my teaching career.
Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it.
Looking back, I would have loved to know what I was getting myself into or at least some advice on navigating Chinese dating culture.
A Jewish friend of mine remarked once, only half joking, that he believed Indians are the true Chosen People. I lived in India for about three years and my husband (currently known as my hus Pad, thanks to his appropriating the i Pad he "gave me," -- but that is another column) is from New Delhi, which, in addition to providing me with lots of Indian friends and in-laws, have given me a pretty good perspective on the desirability of the people from the world's largest democracy -- and how to woo them. If you are pinched for time, you can simply claim SRK is your favorite and move on. If you bust out something like, "Yea, I loved Kuch Kuch Hota Hai," you are very likely to get a second date. Showing an appreciation for Bhangra will score you points. If you want to be adventurous and score some points, I suggest you try cooking him/her a few Indian dishes. Aside from English, Hindi is the most prevalent but not all Indians speak Hindi so you might have to determine his/her native tongue.) Before we got together, Sanjay was greatly amused by my reciting various things in Hindi to him.
Before getting to "how," let's start with "why." There are obvious reasons one would want to date an Indian, such as how successful and professionally desirable they are. But, if you want to take some initiative, I highly recommend you familiarize yourself with some Bollywood actors and choose a favorite. Finding a place that plays Bhangra music and going there together is sure to get you something straight from the Kama Sutra, especially if you exhibit the right dance moves, i.e. You can get the basic spices in most grocery stores. I got a tourist book and told him among other things, that I was missing my green socks.
Indians dominate as engineers, doctors, lawyers, venture capitalists and entrepreneurs. According to Wikipedia*, "India holds the highest number of Miss World winners, only to be tied with Venezuela." (*That feels a little like citing The National Enquirer but I am going to go with it.) Most Indians are innately gracious, social creatures; they highly value friends and family and have a calendar filled with various holidays and occasions to celebrate, which they typically do with gusto. Some safe, attractive possibilities: Salman Khan, Aamir Khan, Hrithik Roshan and Amitabh Bachchan. claim that it is Aishwarya Rai, who is familiar to most Americans, although you will then be suspect as Aishwarya, while extremely beautiful and successful, is a pain in the neck. patting an imaginary dog while screwing in an imaginary light bulb. I'm happy to share a dal recipe that is unbelievably tasty. Now there are several i Phone apps that will give you translations.
They make up a large proportion of our graduate students -- just walk around the campuses of Harvard, Columbia or Stanford or and you will see these incredibly attractive brown people all over the place. Those endless jubilant dance numbers in Bollywood movies pretty much channel the Indian soul. I suggest you pick up a few and break them out at an appropriate time, probably somewhere well into the second date.
Moreover, Indian men Ok, now that the stock for single Indians is up, you need to be on your game if you want to date one. One, SRK is short hand for Shahrukh Khan, one of India's premiere Bollywood celebrities. You don't want your date to think that if things go south, you will resort to stalking.
If you are Indian, you can skip the rest of this post and spend the next four minutes savoring your desirability. Oh yea, I almost forgot to mention: one more big bonus when it comes to dating an Indian: communication with cabbies. New Yorkers: Just imagine if you could stop a taxi during the 4pm transition time and your date could say, in Hindi, "Hey brother, will you please take us to Spring and 6th?
If you are not Indian, keep reading to learn seven things that should ingratiate you with them. Indians take Bollywood and their celebrities very seriously.
It should be obvious by now that you need to have a favorite Hindi movie. Most major cities have theaters that screen Bollywood films otherwise you can easily stream one through Netflix, etc. It has an irresistible beat that will motivate even the most dance-phobic types to hit the floor. Unless you are willing to take some serious initiative in the kitchen, plan to go out for an Indian meal. Many Indians would agree that it is often tough to find a good Indian restaurant, even in major cities. (Note: there are hundreds of languages spoken in India.