I believe that every relationship is different, which is why it upsets me when I see articles that make blanket statements about men (or women) and what you “should” do in your relationship.It’s like those articles that say something to the effect of “divorced men make great partners because they know how to commit since they’ve committed to marriage before,”…unless, of course, he’s a serial cheater, which might be the reason he got divorced in the first place.
With that said, there such things as healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics.
If you notice any one of the following issues in the man you’re dating, take it as a warning that he may be lacking in important qualities that help make a relationship successful.
These include respecting others and having healthy emotional boundaries (knowing where one person ends and the other person begins).
Take note if your partner is: Badmouthing His Ex Sure, it can be pretty common for people to walk away from a bad breakup with a sour taste in their mouth.
And if his ex really did a number on this guy, it would make sense that he would have some bad feelings towards her.
But if he is routinely expressing those bad feelings about her within earshot of you, his preoccupation with his divorce or separation may mean that he has some unresolved feelings.
Perhaps he’s not yet ready to share his heart with another person.
Being previously married and divorced does not necessarily demonstrate a track record of commitment and responsibility.
It simply means they’ve been married and divorced, which could mean all sorts of things!
There are amiable, civilized divorces, and then there are bitter, vindictive divorces—along with everything in-between.
The bottom line: it does not really help you to make assumptions about a group of people based on articles.