This behavior communicates a lack of interest or a preoccupation with someone or somewhere else. Looking around at others a lot and not at you Have you ever had the unpleasant experience of being out with someone who watches the crowd the whole time? Other (non-verbal) expressions that you should listen to that can suddenly occur during the course of a dating relationship are: If your date or boyfriend/girlfriend sends you any of the above (negative) signals, the best way to handle it is to comment in a direct (and gentle) way about it.
Perhaps, they just glance furtively (and frequently) around the room? If your date has little to say to you what does this mean? Perhaps they don't think you would care to hear what they have to say. Be careful not to quickly write it off to something you want it to be, as opposed to what it really is. Stiffening or closed-in body posture You know what YOU do in uncomfortable situations. Then watch for what he/she DOES while you listen to their response. Toni Coleman is a relationship coach in Virginia, and the founder of of Consum-mate Relationship Coaching.
This, of course, signals lack of interest, possible discomfort and a desire to avoid interaction with you. Maybe they think you wouldn't appreciate hearing what they are really thinking. She specializes in working with singles wanting lasting, intimate relationships.
There have been books, workshops and endless discussions spawned by it.
But do you really KNOW how to interpret the non-verbal messages that other people broadcast on a continual basis in their interactions with you?
There are two levels of communication that occur in any interaction: refers to EVERYTHING ELSE that occurs.
Interactions can be wrought with mixed signals- saying one thing and non-verbally communicating another.
No wonder so many singles report confusion regarding what their date was really thinking or feeling.
On the surface, understanding this language can seem very difficult, if not impossible.
Not so, if you learn to speak the non-verbal language of process.
The following tips will be presented using examples of naturally (and commonly) reported dating scenarios experienced by singles. Good eye contact/ poor eye contact When you are sitting and talking with your date, do you notice how they look at you, when you or they are speaking? If this is a first date, it will probably be the last. Physical Contact Perhaps the easiest communication to read correctly is that of touch.
When their eye contact is good, this is a sign that they feel comfortable and interested in you. If your date avoids taking your hand or putting his arm around you he may be uncomfortable or unsure.