Play it cool by maintaininga low-key tone, and challengehim to prove how smart he is by saying"That's a curious choice. " By questioninghim (instead of going all awestruck),you'll trigger his competitive instincts.
You can'tpay attention to how the bartenderis constructing his signature cocktailand psych yourself out at the sametime.
"Projecting your attention outwardinstead of inward helps yourelax," Kirschner says.
Once you're feeling more comfortable,try dragging your fingers slowlyalong your collarbone, massagingyour neck, or arching your backwhile letting him see and/or hear (tryletting out a little ...).
Glossy lips and amazing cleavagewill inspire a guy to cross acrowded room, but when it comes totriggering that hit-by-a-truck (in agood way) feeling, less obvious factorsare at play.
"Although guys might noteven realize it, they have severaldeep-seated fears about commitmentthat may stop them from pursuing awoman," says Diana Kirschner, Ph D,author of "And ona subconscious level, they're instantlyattracted to personality traits that putthose fears at ease."You likely already possess the tantalizingtraits Kirschner is referringto.
The trick is knowing how to playthem up when you're face-to-facewith a worthy guy.
Put the followingadvice into action and the only thinghe'll have to be afraid of is falling inlove too fast.
You've just met anincredibly gorgeousguy, and he doesn'teven have a Brody Jenner–size ego tomatch.
"At this point, alot of women want toshower the guy withattention because that'show we treat girlfriends we like,"Kirschner says.