Mister Cee resigned because of the shaming and criticism he received because of his sexual practices, believing that this would "distract from his effectiveness as a DJ and harm the station." We transwomen and our allies have felt the need to participate in this discussion. We, as a society, have not created a space for men to openly express their desire to be with trans women.
Instead, we shame men who have this desire, from the boyfriends, cheaters and “chasers” to the “trade,” clients, and pornography admirers.
When a man can be shamed merely for interacting with a trans women – whether it be through a photograph, a sex tape or correspondences — what does this say about how society views trans women? This pervasive ideology says that trans women are shameful, that trans women are not worthy of being seen and that trans women must remain a secret–invisible and disposable.
If a man dares to be seen with a trans woman, he will likely lose social capital so he must adamantly deny, vehemently demean, trash and/or exterminate the woman in question.
He must do this to maintain his standing in our patriarchal society.
I’ve stood witness to many so-called scandals, mostly published on gossip blogs, where passing interactions with trans women spawn hundreds of headlines, particularly for a man with fame and social capital.
Thousands of words have been dedicated to analyzing whether such and such famous man is now suspect, merely because he took a photo with a fan who happened to be a trans woman.
This questioning has led many well-known men to adamantly defend their heterosexuality and has tarnished the reputation and careers of others.It sounds like silliness on the surface, but often times when gossip blogs are the public’s only exposure to trans women, it spreads misinformation, validates stereotypes and causes irreparable damage. Starting with Janet Mock, and followed by Melissa Harris-Perry and Andrea James, the articles have focused on the hip-hop community's response to the recent resignation of DJ Mister Cee after he was forced to admit having sex with transgender women. But I couldn't miss the recent news out of that community which erupted last week and has been burning up the gossip pages. There has been a multitude of commentary recently about the shaming of men for having encounters with transgender women.Mister Cee did not quit because he was admitting criminal activity.But you would have never known that from observing the aftermath of the incident.