She genuinely thinks that your money is her money and is depending on you to carry her while she tries to work and go to school simultaneously.
And unless you agreed to that arrangement, you’re allowing yourself to be used by her.
It’s really easy for her to say that she’d do anything for you – in theory, I’m sure she would.
I’ve not seen this question answered before, so here goes: Where do you draw the line when your girlfriend asks for money?
We’ve enjoyed each other immensely for the last 9 months…
until she decided to return to school to get an advanced degree.
I have a decent job (making about 100K per year), but I just don’t like the idea of giving anyone money. Government, she’s AIG – and your relationship is still ill-defined.
We appear to be breaking up over this, since she says she really can’t stand the thought of her man not helping her out if he can afford to do so. As I see it, the real problem here is that you bailed her out without having a commitment – and now she feels entitled to more bailout money. She’s relying on you as a husband even though you’re not a husband.
Which makes this a good time to ask yourself: do I want to marry this woman And, if not, breaking up might not be the worst thing in the world. Government, she’s AIG – and your relationship is still ill-defined.As I see it, the real problem here is that you bailed her out without having a commitment – and now she feels entitled to more bailout money. That ill-defined relationship – 9 good months together without living together or getting engaged – seems to have created a blurry set of expectations on her part.She now can only work part-time, and has trouble paying her bills.On top of that, her car recently died and she had no money to get another one.I gave her some money to help her get a used car, but she still struggles to pay her (,000 per month) mortgage and other bills.She says that since she would do anything for me if I had problems, she expects her man to do likewise for her.