He is everything to me, my best friend, my husband, my life. He shut down all 3 profiles and his email account in front of me. A man just does not get physically sick like that due to emotions.But when I read other peoples experiences of similar things online, they all say if men do that they can never be trusted and you should end things. If he did delete his profiles and email accounts, that is a positive step forward.
He says he never talked dirty and at the most a bit flirty (which I find hard to believe on an online dating site) and he was never turned on by anyone.
Itâs now been a week and we have talked and cried so much but I feel so sick inside that I canât eat, sleep or work and am having suicidal thoughts. He says he will do anything to show me that Iâm everything to him. And he was so sick, throwing up, not eating, not sleeping.
He is extremely sorry and I know he loves me but I feel like although he has not physically cheated on me he has mentally. He says he hasnât been on since I nearly caught him (when he crashed the computer)and that he was never going to again but all I think is what about if I hadnât caught him, in 10 years time he could still be doing it. There was a patch in the beginning of my relationship with my husband where his mother forced him (we were 16 and 17, so yes she could force him) to break up with me. At the time I was pregnant and it was an additional blow I did not need. I could tell he was sorry and did not want to break up with me.
I got married to the love of my life a year ago and a few weeks ago I walked in on my husband and saw something on the computer and asked him what it was, he panicked and shut the computer down.
After a huge argument he said he was looking at porn and crashed his computer because he knew Iâd be upset.
We had our 1st proper massive fight in the whole 5 years we have been together and he promised he would never hurt me again and that I am his rock, his best friend, his soul mate and the love of his life and he was being inconsiderate of my feelings .
But Something just wasnât feeling right in my mind and I knew he was lying about what he had been doing.
Anyway to cut the story short I managed to reset a password to an email account I had found but never expected to find that he was registered to 3 online dating chat sites (which he had set up 1 month before we got married) He had even set his profile as single and even posted a picture of himself to someone (not a rude one but a photo all the same).
He had lots of emails from people but hadnât ever opened any of them other than the odd one to accept a friend or request a friend.
When I confronted him he told me he had been really stupid and never thought about what he was risking.
He works 14 hour days He works full time and then comes home to work on his business which he hopes to make a success for us so we can have the life we have always talked and dreamed about.