I ask because I think the average young woman feels a lot of cultural pressure to have sex like a man — and tries to make her own appetite for sexual adventure live up to the expectations that her partner has for her, or that she may have developed for herself after watching one too many episodes of .
Who wanted sex sooner the last time you were dating someone: you or the guy in question?
Who pressured the other to do something a little more sexually adventurous than the reluctant person felt comfortable with: you or him?
Or, the last time you hooked up with someone, who coaxed the other person into leaving the party where you met so some clothes could come off: you or him?
If you asked a group of your girlfriends — and their sisters — questions like these, what do you think their answers would be?
My young ass male friends couldn’t wait to meet a new girl, go on dates, and round the bases as fast as they could, all while hoping they met a girl cool enough to “wife up.” On the other hand, my young homegirls approached the dating scene with great trepidation, having already felt the sting of “heartbreak.” Now, as an adult, I realize this theory still rings very true.
But, I wanted to conduct a small (unscientific) survey just to make sure I wasn’t jumping to sexist conclusions.
This past weekend, I held an event called R&B: Relationships & Bullsh*t, in which I specifically asked the hundreds of people in attendance whether they enjoyed dating as a single person.
but there's plenty of other research that would similarly indicate women are generally a little more hesitant about casual sex: An April report from James Madison University found women are more likely than men to prefer dating to hooking up, and are more likely to want to be in a relationship.
A 2008 study out of England's Durham University found that most men enjoyed one-night stands, reporting improved self-confidence and a greater sense of well-being afterward.
Roughly half the women, however, had negative feelings after their one-night stands.)To borrow from Regnerus again: "Research like this consistently demonstrates that men have a greater and far less discriminating appetite for it…
Ever since I was a freshman in high school, I’ve held the belief that men enjoy dating more than women.