So those who can't spell and use too many exclamation marks will be drooling morons in real life, too.
That you met this chap in the sexual bazaar of online dating only muddies the water further.
When dating people via the internet always assume that they are juggling several people at once and are continuing their search even if you've seen them several times — after all, he might still have several months left on his subscription.
Until you've had that conversation in which you both explicitly agree to be monogamous, you have no right to hold his behaviour against him.
Q: The boyfriend I met online still looks at dating sites — should I confront him? Don't be duped into thinking that online dating is some kind of free-for-all, where normal rules of courtesy don't apply.
Just because you met online, it shouldn't mean that anything goes and that he is entitled to surf for other girls while cooing sweet nothings to you down the phone.
Some people might choose to treat online dating sites like portals to an alternate universe in which they can behave like an arse, with no repercussions, but that doesn't make it OK.
It's safest to assume that people behave online more or less the way that they behave all the time.
If you had caught him out behaving as if he's single offline — taking another woman out to dinner, ferociously chatting people up in bars or exchanging suggestive text messages — it would be clear that your relationship isn't going to go very far. What he is telling you by continuing to look online is that he is not serious about you and doesn't care if you find this out.
So you can confront him if you want, but you should think realistically about how the conversation is going to go. "I kind of like you but I still want to know what's out there"? And why would you want to be with someone who feels like that?
If I were you, I'd skip the confrontation and go straight to the part where you dump his sorry ass. Are you sure that you actually are boyfriend and girlfriend?
When they get the ball rolling with someone new, a lot of people mistakenly think that because they are having sex and spending time with that person they are therefore a couple, with the responsibilities that come with that — such as monogamy.